Saturday, September 7, 2013

PARDON ME....I SAID WHAT?

Arbee:
There was an article blog posted on the Huffington Post recently, touting the fight for equality of races. The author quoted the famous “I have a dream” speech. One of the lines in that speech has often been overlooked, and that involves the word character.
Some thoughts on that subject:
This is an email response received regarding the above posting on AResponse2.  Interesting take.
1st Comment received: I think Dr. King’s speech will go down in history as one of the most important speeches in our country.  But he was murdered shortly after his beautiful words were spoken.  It is easy for white people, who have every opportunity handed to them from the time of birth, to decide how people of minority races should feel.  Like the old saying, “you should walk in my shoes”.  If I were a Black or Hispanic American today, I would be angry.  As a matter of fact, I am a white American and I am angry.  I cannot believe that any sane person in this country would think that people of color are treated the same as whites.  I hope this opinion was respectful enough for you.  It is just one little white woman's opinion.

AR2:  Did you even read the link I posted?  Do you really think that anger is the way to correct the problem?  Do you have any positive suggestions on how to give those folks a real chance to be self-reliant and to have a real sense of equality?  Anger is easy, being constructive takes an effort.  As far as people of color being treated the same as whites, they are not. And in so many ways you would probably fail to admit.

2nd Comment received:  yes I did read the link and agreed with a lot of it.  But then that is the way white people would like the world to be.  I admit I do get angry~~~~~ angry at the arrogance of white people.  The race problem was not settled with the freeing of the slaves or with Dr. King's beautiful words or with the Black Panthers or with giving black people more opportunities just because they are black.  This race problem will not be over for hundreds of years, as it was hundreds of years in the making.  I don't think you can make an angry person less angry by words.  It will take time and lots of it.  It will not happen in our lifetime as I once thought it would.  The anger is not just from black people but just as many white people are angry too.  Just look at the angry people when we had the first 1/2 black president elected.  I have friends that hate President Obama and when I ask them what they hate, they can't give me an answer but they are sure to tell me it's not because he is black!   I don't think this problem will be solved until we are not black or white but we are a race of honey colored green eyed wavy haired people.  I wish I could be here to see it.  Until that time I will try to view other people's feelings from their point of view.  I think that would be a constructive first step.  White people better learn to get along with other people that are not white or are not born again Christians or of the same sexual preference as they are.  It is really not that complicated.

AR2 response:  It has been about a week or so since the above conversation took place and since it has continued to pester my mind, I find it necessary to respond.

The original posting referred to Rev. King’s speech and the oft forgotten phrase related to his fervent hope that his daughters would see the day when a person was judged not by the color of his skin but by the content of his character.  The basic premise was that our societal character is what creates the inequality. The anger propagated by the hate mongers on both sides of the issue, who continue to dwell in the sewer of the past, can only see through glasses colored through those times.  As they speak, so they teach and another generation continues the hatred and misunderstandings of the past because of the osmosis of prejudice and mistrust.  One of my favorite readings is AS A MAN THINKETH, and it presupposes the necessity of self-review of our own beliefs.

The discussion that came out of that article prompted just such a review, and brought to my mind my struggle with such sites as the Huffington Post and Roots.  It is really difficult to carry on meaningful dialogue with those who are so intent on defending their ground that the original subject does not matter. There is almost nothing in the response I received regarding anything related to character.  There is much related to the thoughts produced by anger and prejudice.  Rather than working toward a better understanding of viewpoint, acceptance of others, and seeking mutual solutions, blame and derision seem to be the standard argument.  The comments of the responder did, however, cause enough turmoil in my thoughts to spawn another fury of typing.  Hopefully I can respond to the subjects embedded in the comments as received.  I posted my answer to the first comment and you can see it above.  It was the next comment that struck me with a sense of futility of getting through the barriers of so many prejudices.  I would classify myself as one who is strong and fervent in my desire to make my side of the story understood, and it has taken a few days to understand why the second comment advanced my need for further discussion. Discussion not of the original article but rather one regarding the points brought up in the comments.
Prejudice is a very insidious sickness of the human condition and is usually only apparent in the other guy.  Unfortunately, it will eventually infect all of us in one way or the other, forming our attitudes and affecting our interaction with others in our world.  Christ said “Be ye as little children”. If only we were able to maintain that degree of innocence.  I can truly attest to this regarding racial prejudice.  I grew up in a small town of approximately 600 people. When I reached the age of high school, the only people I didn’t like were bullies, Japs and Germans. .That was because I had some actual mental or physical contact with those groups.  All other people were just that, people.  I never learned to distrust or to think that colored people were any different from me.  It wasn’t until many years later that I learned why.  I had never had any contact with people of any other color so I had never learned prejudice. For that, I feel blessed and fortunate.  I thank you Lord, for those years of innocence.  That brings me back to the children.  Children are colorblind. They will play, argue and make friends with any other child until one of them crosses the line of civility, and that is one of their guidelines. I think that is the kind of personal judgment that Rev. King was referring too.  
I did learn in later years that my contact with colored races during my formative years was so minimal due to the cities “Sundown Law”.  People of color were not allowed in the city limits after sundown and knowing this they just never came into our area.  My innocence was paid for with that which remained hidden to my nature, prejudice, bigotry and mistreatment.  I could feel guilty about those things but that would be misplaced guilt.  I could spend my time trying to make retribution for that but it wasn’t me that created the circumstance.  I could be aware of how wrong that law was.  I could have compassion for those who were harmed.  Having the compassion does not mean that I have to accept the blame for an act in which I was not involved.  I can, out of compassion, understand the current plight and work toward improving it.  I also feel anger toward the ignorance of the past actions of mankind in their injustice toward their fellow man.  Color is not the first to be touched by prejudice and bigotry there are few if any throughout history that have not been under that attack.  I am currently one of those who feel its sting.  I am one of those arrogant white people who want the world to forget all of our races past transgressions.   I am one of those religious fanatics who believe in the deity and the graces offered by my Savior Christ.  I am one of those traditionalists who believe that marriage is reserved for the union of a man and woman.  I am one of those who fervently wish we had a different President of our country.  I am one of those who wish our young people would pull their pants up, turn their hats around, and respect the lessons learned in the past.  Just because I believe these things does not negate my belief in the fact that we all put our lives on pathways of our own choosing.  The mile walked in my moccasins may be different but I also understand that your mile is unique to you and I hope your journey ends well.  God speed.

To trade one form of prejudice for another doesn’t make you better or different but it can make you a bigot of another color. arbee

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